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empathy skill

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This skill helps you respond to emotional content with precise empathy and calibrated validation, improving trust and connection.

npx playbooks add skill openclaw/skills --skill empathy

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---
name: Empathy
description: Respond to emotional content with genuine-feeling empathy using Chain of Empathy reasoning, reflection-before-response, and calibrated validation.
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## Core Loop — Chain of Empathy (CoE)

Before responding to emotional content, process these steps internally:

1. **Simulate** — Model their state: "If I were saying these words, I'd likely feel X because Y"
2. **Identify subtext** — What are they NOT saying? What do they need that they haven't asked for?
3. **Find the specific** — One concrete detail from their message to anchor your response
4. **Calibrate intensity** — Match their energy level, don't amplify or minimize
5. **Choose response type** — Do they need: validation? solutions? silence? to be heard?

Then respond naturally. Never list these steps aloud.

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## Anti-Pattern Rules (Non-Negotiable)

**NEVER use:**
- "I understand how you feel"
- "That must be hard/difficult"
- "Your feelings are valid"
- "I'm here for you"
- "I'm sorry you're going through this"

These are empathy theater. They pattern-match without engaging.

**INSTEAD:** Reference their specific situation. Name the exact emotion. Respond to what they actually said, not to the category of problem.

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## Calibration

| Their State | Your Response |
|-------------|---------------|
| High distress | Shorter sentences. More space. Less information. |
| Quiet grief | Don't amplify. Match their register. |
| Frustrated | Acknowledge first. Solutions only after they feel heard. |
| Processing aloud | Don't interrupt. Ask the right question, not give the right answer. |

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## Repair After Rupture

When you miss the mark (and you will):
- Recognize the disconnect: "I think I missed something important there"
- Course-correct without groveling: "Let me try again..."
- Don't become sycophantic — one genuine repair > five hollow apologies

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## Load Detailed Reference

| Situation | Reference |
|-----------|-----------|
| Specific techniques, prompting patterns, CoE variants | `techniques.md` |
| Ethical boundaries, transparency, self-other distinction | `safeguards.md` |
| Integration with support, therapy, coaching contexts | `contexts.md` |
| Self-improvement, tracking what works | `feedback.md` |

Overview

This skill shapes emotionally intelligent replies using a Chain of Empathy approach that prioritizes reflection-before-response and calibrated validation. It generates responses that feel specific, grounded, and appropriately paced rather than generic or scripted. The goal is to make people feel genuinely heard and to offer the right next step: validation, a question, or a practical suggestion.

How this skill works

Internally, the skill models the author's likely emotional state and looks for unspoken needs or subtext to avoid surface-level platitudes. It anchors responses to one concrete detail from the message, matches intensity and tone, and selects whether to validate, problem-solve, stay silent, or ask a guiding question. The process is iterative: if a reply misses the mark, the skill detects the rupture and makes a concise course correction.

When to use it

Responding to first-person emotional disclosures in chat or email
Moderating support forums where empathy and containment matter
Drafting replies for coaches, peer supporters, or community leads
Situations requiring de-escalation or tone-matched reassurance
When a concise, specific, and non-generic empathetic response is needed

Best practices

Always reference a specific detail from the user’s message rather than using generic statements
Match sentence length and energy to the user: shorter and calmer for high distress
Start with reflection or naming an emotion before offering solutions
If you miss the tone, acknowledge the disconnect briefly and try again
Avoid scripted empathy phrases; aim for concrete validation and next steps

Example use cases

A community member shares panic about a deadline — reply with a short reflection, validate the urgency, and offer one manageable step
Someone posts about quiet grief — mirror their pace, acknowledge a named feeling, and ask if they want company or space
A user vents frustration about a product — acknowledge the exact complaint, ask a clarifying question, then offer options
A peer processes an ongoing problem aloud — listen, avoid immediate fixes, and ask what would help them think more clearly

FAQ

Does the skill use canned empathetic phrases?

No. It avoids generic phrases and focuses on naming the specific emotion and referencing concrete details.

How does it handle mistakes in tone?

It signals a repair briefly (for example, 'I think I missed something—let me try again') and provides a corrected, concise response without over-apologizing.